My Personal Experience
|This is Camden, our first child, back when we was little. He’s the inspiration behind wanting baby #2.|
- have a D&C to remove everything
- wait for nature to take its course, which could mean weeks
- take pills to induce a miscarriage
Where are all these women?
When someone you know is experiencing a miscarriage:
- Don’t say, “Let me know if you need anything.” Instead, specifically offer something, like babysitting their other children, bringing dinner, or directly asking, “What can I do to help?”
- Don’t try to point out the positive. Most couples already know the positives, like “at least you know you can get pregnant.” They don’t need someone to point out the obvious; they did need someone to listen.
- Do send a kind text or drop off a sweet note expressing your condolences. This is usually best if you have a close relationship with the family.
- Don’t tell anyone else about their miscarriage. They will tell the people they want to know. It’s not really yours to share.
- Do let them be the ones to bring up the miscarriage. If they want to talk about it, they will. If they don’t, they won’t.
- Don’t bring up stories about people who have had more or worse miscarriages. Their trial may be less in comparison, but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t hurt.
- Don’t ask them if they are pregnant later on. If they are, they will tell you when they are ready.
- Most of all, just listen and love.
|Baby Camden and I last year. Leaving on a happy note.|