Where the PinkSourcing Video Went Wrong

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Like many of you, I have recently viewed Kristen Bell’s satirical video on what she calls “Pinksourcing.” In the video, she satirizes the gender pay gap by stating that companies can save money by outsourcing to women, who they can pay for “77 cents on the dollar.” While I enjoyed the humor, and agree with the overall goal of the film, one jab at the very end hit me hard.

I was sure I had misunderstood. This is a women’s rights video, right? So wouldn’t they be supporting ALL women in ALL the roles they play? I rewatched the video 4 times to be sure I was hearing it right.

I was.

At the very end, Kristen says, “After all, women don’t even really want to be working anyway. They’d rather be home, taking care of the family, while their husband gets to make life choices and follow his dreams, and play fantasy football.” While she says this, the women next to her shake their heads and roll their eyes.

This came across as a direct insult on the concept of being a stay at home mom. Stay at home moms don’t get to “make life choices” or “follow [their] dreams.”

I disagree.

I have a dream. A sacred dream. One that I have dedicated my life to. One that I have sacrificed for. Labored for. And even, quite literally, borne. One that I get to pursue every day by being the “stay at home mom.”

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My dream is to raise my children well. I hope to instill the values of responsibility, morality, confidence, and love within them.

I hope to teach them right from wrong. I hope to teach them how to work hard. I hope to teach them about fairness, and justice, and mercy.

I hope to teach them well, so when my two sons are grown, they will know that paying a woman less for doing the same work as her higher-paid male counterpart is wrong.

I hope to teach them well, so they will understand that when a woman decides to be the primary caretaker of her children, she is not taking the easy way out or giving up on her life’s dreams.   She is not voiding her right to “make life choices.” She is taking on what C.S. Lewis calls “the ultimate career.” She is carving the future. She is shaping history. She is changing the world, one child at a time.

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If we want to fight for women’s rights, we need to do so united. We cannot win if we are alienating one another based on our differences like deciding to work or not work. I’m a stay at home mom, but I still support equal pay. I still support mothers who choose to go to work. And in return, I hope that they support me likewise.

Managing stress allows you the freedom to live the life you want.

“Thee lift me and I’ll lift thee and we’ll ascend together.”

–Quaker Proverb

I made a swimsuit!

Cute modest one piece swimsuit.

I have been wanting to make a swimsuit forever and finally got brave enough.  I eased into it by starting with a refashion.  Below is the original swimsuit.  Granted, it’s really cute.  But my torso is quite long and the tiny bandeau strap wasn’t doing a sufficient job.  Long story short, it kept falling down.  IN PUBLIC.  So I decided the swimsuit needed to be tossed or altered.

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I was planning on making a tutorial of how I made this swimsuit, but let’s be honest–SO MANY MISTAKES.  I had a ton of alterations that it just wasn’t worth documenting.  Hopefully in the future I’ll be able to post a swimsuit tutorial, but today’s not the day people.

Cute swimsuit back. #modestswimsuit #swimsuit refashion

I think my favorite part is the lace-up back.  It really helps ensure a proper fit. Unfortunately, it’s hard to see exactly how it fits since Thelma, my dress form, has neither a butt, nor legs, nor a crotch, so the suit doesn’t exactly fit her to perfection–but does give you a pretty good idea.

Another unique feature is that the straps can be expanded to cover your shoulders.  This is great if you get sunburned.  It also works well for easy wear out of the water if you just throw on some high waisted shorts or a skirt.

Versatile swimsuit. Wear the straps as a halter or expand to make capped sleeves.

And just a friendly reminder that the promo code to get 25% some J-Slips Sandals is on my previous post and is live until 9/18.

Hawaiian J-Slips

Hawaiian J-Slips

Last month it was “homeless week” at BYU.  This is the week when your current housing ends, but your new housing hasn’t started yet.  Seeing herself in a predicament, my sister Sabrina moved in with us for a short stay until her new apartment was ready.  The whole time she was here, I couldn’t help but notice that she wore the same sandals everyday and they went perfectly with whatever she was wearing–dresses, shorts, pants, etc.

I decided it was time I try these babies out seeing as how they meet my usual requirements for what I call my “I’m a cool mom” clothes. The requirements are as follows.

  1. Easy to put on.
  2. Easy to match with other things.
  3. Easy to clean.

I’m so happy I tried these out because they are great!  This brand is called J-Slips and they are located in Hawaii (which I will proudly remind you is my birth state).

Hawaiian J-Slips

I have a sweet connection with the company, so they are giving me promo code 25Camden to share with you so you can get 25% off.

Guys, these shoes are currently listed at $10.99 so 25% off is crazy good.  You’ll be paying $8.25 for these babies!

Also, shipping is free if you have Amazon Prime, or have a total order over $49 of eligible items.

They also have three different colors Kona, Coconut, and Sand.  I got Kona (shown).  I recommend you check out their website so you can see more pictures and get some more information on the product.

I do want to point out that the shoes are entirely made of rubber.  For some reason I wasn’t expecting this, but it makes them super durable and waterproof.  Just thought I’d pass that on :)

Hawaiian J-Slips

I usually wear an 8.5-9 and I got an extra-large.  I’d say they run a tad on the small side since they have a narrow fit.

Hawaiian J-Slips

I hope you love yours as much as I love mine!

Chambray Dress with Pockets!

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Camden keeps asking me if it’s summer or fall right now.  Truth be told, I don’t actually know the official date that the seasons change so I just replied that it’s “in between.” Somehow this led to a conversation about the rotation of the earth on its angled axis around the sun and how that causes us to have different seasons during different times of the year.  It was a bit complicated for a 4 year old, but I think he got it.

Well, no matter the season, this dress can be styled for all types of weather. My cute sister got it from Jane.com and you can get it here for $25.

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Tackling Stress: Three Ways to Take Out Stress and Take on Calm

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It’s been nearly 12 years since my first panic attack, and I have suffered on and off with them in the proceeding years—but not without learning a thing or two from them. I have found that the best way to defeat stress is to face what triggers it. It’s been a long road for me to be able to manage my stress, but today I’m going to share what has helped me in hopes that it may help you as well.

Being able to manage my stress has meant freedom for me.  Freedom to feel confident leaving the house.  Freedom to not panic about doing fun things with my family.  Freedom to feel in control of my life.

Managing stress allows you the freedom to live the life you want.

1. Pinpoint Your Stress Triggers

I had no idea what was causing my first-ever panic attack. When you don’t know what you are stressed about, you can’t find a way to face it. Thanks to technology, there’s a great way to find your triggers that requires little effort on your part. I’m speaking of the Spire Fitness Tracker. It’s a small stone-like monitor that detects your breathing patterns. You can wear it on your bra or waistband and it simply slides on using the attached clip. It connects to your phone through an application that makes everything easy to track.

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When you are tense, you start to breath more rapidly, and the Spire Fitness Tracker not only detects this, it gently vibrates to alert you and send you a notification on your phone. It can also detect the location of where you were when you were tense so you can identify what was going on at the time when you review your history later. After using the Spire Fitness Tracker with it’s accompanying app for several weeks I have been able to identify numerous triggers I didn’t even realize were causing me to be stressed. Some of them include: looking at social media, walking my 4-year-old church class around the building, and driving when I’m late to get somewhere. Once you know what causes you stress, you can then begin to find ways to manage them.

Below is a screenshot of my actual summary after wearing the Spire Fitness Tracker for a week.

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2. Develop a Game Plan

Now that you know what is causing your stress, you can know find strategies to eliminate or alleviate the stressors. Obviously some things are just a part of life. For example, running late is going to happen from time to time due to circumstances that are sometimes out of our hands. Using the Spire Fitness Tracker, when this does cause you to start to tense up, it’ll alert you so you can begin taking deeper breaths, and thus, prevent the stress from growing into something more. Other triggers, like worrying about a test, can be faced by preparation and practice.

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3. Institute Calming Practices

Simply addressing our triggers is not enough to help us life a more peaceful life. Instead of only focusing on eliminating stress, we should also focus on adding more peace and calm into our routines. This has helped me to be more prepared for stressful situations that arise, as well as find balance and perspective in life. Calming practices vary based on the individual. I find that working out helps me release stress and return home in a much better mood. Deep breathing has also done wonders for me.  It’s been the only thing that’s allowed me to put a stop to a panic attack right in the middle of one. Discover what helps you find calmness and peace by trying different options like guided meditations from the Spire Fitness Tracker (yes, it does that too!), exercising, hiking with your family, reading and so forth.

When I first began having panic attacks, I didn’t think I would ever be the same.  It’s taken some practice, and a lot of time, but I now know how to master my stress instead of letting it master me.  You can do it too!

Learn more about the Spire Mindfulness + Activity Tracker here.

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I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

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